There are these three things in our life that have to be explained and separated.
It is a mistake to mix the three things together and to think that they are the same thing when in fact they are not. Some people start to define themselves by what they do or by what they have, not by what they are. And that has very serious consequences in life. I’ll explain better.
WHAT YOU HAVE
You have a house, a motorcycle, a car, a collection of watches or books, you have a house on the beach, you have 10,000 Itaú shares, 500,000 reais in Treasury Direct. They are THINGS, they are roles, they are properties. These are things you OWN.
You JUST possess these things. They do not define you. They are not what you are. One day or another they can come out of your power, and you will be the same person. These things do not possess you, you are not them and they are not you.
You have a lot on the beach. What would that change in your personality? Strictly speaking, it was not to change anything, at least not in an evolved mind.
You have 5 million reals in cattle heads and doing. This is just possession. It does not enter into your soul, your personality, the way you relate to your family and friends, your story with your past.
I have 300,000 in stocks, it does not change anything in me, I am not what I have. What you have is not you, it does not define you. People are neither things nor properties.
You are not your equity or your debts.
You are not financing your car or your apartment.
WHAT DO YOU DO
You work as a doctor, dentist, engineer, airplane pilot, diver, police officer, lawyer, accountant … this is not common sense.
Common sense is: You are a doctor, you are a lawyer, you ARE ARCHITECT.
So nobody sees more YOU – people see a drinking lawyer, drinking doctor, an architect playing guitar, an airline pilot … dancing forró.
Another mistake. You are not your profession. You work in your profession. You are you, your profession is your profession, and even you can change it, go work on something else, and it will be the same person.
You are not a doctor, you WORK as a doctor.
You are not a lawyer, you WORK as a lawyer and so on.
And why do you have to differentiate that?
Because your profession is not your life, it’s not you, it’s just a way you got to make money, work and be paid. When a person or the media attacks the police and you are a police officer, you may feel bad, people may misjudge your profession and even your character by belonging to that profession.
Not to mention that if you confuse yourself with your profession it will look very bad if one day you become unemployed, or poorly paid or it simply ceases to exist. Imagine that you lived 30 years ago and you were a DAHLOGRAPHER. The profession is simply gone, and should you disappear too? Every year some professions go away and others are reborn. If your profession disappears one day and you think it is her, you will be in bad shape.
Another thing, even disagreeable, is for the individual to talk about his profession all day, to talk about his work, including other people who are not from the same area or family and friends, talking about his work all the time, In other environments and with people who are not even there is totally unpleasant.
Sometimes I get so apathetic with people in my profession who talk about it all the time who blatantly change the subject quite honestly:
What about the next vacation?
And the family is well?
What are you reading?
Do you have any shows to keep in mind?
Anyway, I speak very generic things to divert the subject.
WHAT YOU ARE
Well, here is the deeper part of the whole thing.
You have certain things (debts + assets). Only.
You WORK in such an area, in such a profession, but THAT does not define you, or at least should not define.
You are a person, a human being, made of your own history, the history of your parents, your grandparents and your ancestors, you are the result of your creation, your childhood experiences, your youth, Listened to, the books he read, the food he ate, the ideas he saw and produced, the places he traveled, the movies he saw, the people he talked to, the dreams, the mistakes and the correct answers he produced, his school life, his Your relationships with friends, family and romantic couples of your studies, the work you’ve done, the decisions you’ve made, the past you’ve had, and the future you’re expecting.
Do not define yourself for what you have, it is a lot of poverty of character.
Do not define yourself by your profession or by the way you do to make money, this can change a lot.
Define yourself for who you really are.
And most importantly, do not let yourself be defined by others in front of you for what you have or for what you do. Do not let people confuse you with your profession or your debts or your assets, it can destroy you and/or your relationship with these people.
Also, try to observe what the people you are relating to ARE actually, and not what they have (or possess) or what they do, this is a serious mistake and you have to watch it at all times.