Victimization is an evil that needs to be combated.
The act of the individual victimizing itself in relation to the situation that is found is a very common topic nowadays. I write this because I have noticed it both in the blogosphere and in real life, in all media and all the time, and this is annoying and disturbing.
I believe that every human being has the power within himself to change his world and his reality independent of his ancestors, his parents, the neighborhood he grew up and the quality of the education he received. Victimization can be far greater than you realize, including within yourself, your family, your friends, and your work. Placing the things that happen in your life as a result of the actions and wishes of others is a dishonest way of looking at reality and will always only disrupt you and will never be for your good.
The fault of your situation is not of the government, nor of your parents, nor of your college, nor of your college or of the work that you chose to work. As you read this and disagree with me, it is your victim’s head that thinks for you. And why is it not their fault? Let’s use a bit of logic here:
The government is the same bad government for all. So why do some people thrive even with a bad government and you do not? How many wealthy and well-off people do you have in your city (and who has no favors from the government) achieved a high level of LIFE of the government? Think about it. Why are you so SPECIAL that the government just screwed up with your life and released others? Neither the world nor the government revolves around you.
“My parents did not give me the right education, my parents did not give me money, my parents did not put me to learn English, they did not put me in a sport, they did not encourage me to study, they never oriented me about my future” … More victimization, More victimization. I am speaking generically, of course, that extreme cases of abandonment, hunger, very traumatic separations, drugs, and violence can be considered as separate cases and may rather have resulted in serious injury to the individual’s life, but these are exceptions, however many people who Nor had parents or had an extremely horrible creation managed to turn around and recover.
Of course, those who have everything at hand and parents oriented are more likely to win in life, this is statistical data, but you are not a statistical person, you are a human person who takes hundreds of decisions every day and can improve by making better decisions. When you play in a collective to dive into a statistic to justify your situation you are not being honest nor true, you know very well that thousands of people with a life much worse than yours have surpassed everything and nowadays are well.
“I studied in too bad schools, I studied in public school, I did not have a law school …” the same reasoning of the previous ones. There are people who do not even have a full first degree and nowadays are well-off, and basically are illiterate who only know how to spell the name. I met great men who became literate in the backlands walking several kilometers of bicycle to study in a public school with everyone together, and a teacher who basically did not know anything, all this going hungry and without school meals, in the same way as I knew a rich businessman I went to the canoe school when I was a kid, just with the brothers paddling, several kilometers to get to the straw school (this in the north) where you could not even ride a bike, you can see children from 7-8-9-10 -11 years paddling in a canoe that the water enters in with any water, with a notebook and a pencil in the middle of the legs? Not infrequently a canoe of these turned and some died, in fact, this happens until today, the rate of the drowning of children in the rivers of the northern region of Brazil is a metric forgotten by the Brazilian media and that the rest of the Brazilian population has no idea.
In the 70’s and even 90’s, it was not common to have lunch at school, I met many people who came and went from school hungry and did not eat anything at all. I met athletes who trained with hunger, went home and slept hungrily because there was nothing to eat. I met others who were so poor that they had no place to live and lived in the gym, in exchange for cleaning, washing the toilets and cleaning the mat, and living on sporadic donations from training friends. I need to say that there are success stories in all the people in these groups that I mentioned, of course not all, but if they were in a situation of penury, the average Brazilian of the CD class lives in urbanized regions with the Internet, PC, Notebooks and schools to study, in addition to 3 meals a day at home.
Surely you have seen some newspaper story showing cases of successful people, who have departed from distant places to conquer, who have not covered and fought for their place in the sun. In the site of meusucesso.com I saw a story of a guy who arrived in Brazil refugee from the Vietnam war without any moment (and not even a word in Portuguese) that today is a businessman who makes millions of dollars a month selling sandal with his own industry. In the world, there are hundreds of millions of stories of refugees who with hard work and struggle have built their lives, and the situation of a refugee is far more extreme than that of a native who is in the same country. And these stories happen all the time, all over the world for several centuries.
Link to the trailer of this story here:
So if you leave here and do not know how to speak the language of others, you live in China, you get there with no money but the passage and the clothes of the body and you win in life, where you have room to be victimized?
One must be careful not to be caught up in the speech of political groups who want to convince you that you are the victim of a perverse system and that by collaborating and voting with them and passing on the speech, wasting your time and your focus, you will grow in life. People use people for their power project, and they use them through populist discourse (mainly from left-wing groups), saying that the solution to their life is to tax the rich, to take money from others to give to you, or Land, or corporate equity, or even say that you have been much wronged and deserves to win grants, quotas, favors and shortcuts to win in life. And with that, they divide society even further into this ideological apartheid and you get lost, blaming others, blaming slave owners who lived here 200 years ago (hi?), Among other bizarre ones. It is the kidnapping of your mind that is at stake and if you do not keep your thinking independent and free from ideological ties you will never get out of the corner. And I have tens of friends, family, and acquaintances in this situation. Basically for what reason? Why have they never taken the reins of their own lives and outsourced the responsibility of their destiny to others, to statistics and too manipulated metrics in scoundrel publications?
For me, it is very natural that I can admit this, I escaped being regimented as cattle in a federal institute that I studied and also in my university that was public. I vehemently denied any attempt to manipulate my thinking and individuality. I never lent my name, my work force, and my youth to serve anyone’s political project. I do not allow myself to be the victim of a system that attacks but also gives the opportunity to all. I have always believed that I am responsible for my destiny and have worked and worked hard every day in my continuous improvement process because I know it is this and that is all I can do for myself.
If you allow yourself to be manipulated by vested interests and by the political-financial-industrial-mediatic mainstream you will get lost in life very quickly. Do not let them put hatred, sadness, revenge or defeat in your heart. Do not let crazy and ambitious scoundrels use you for anything, stay calm, hardworking and independent, study, research, read a lot of books, and grow. Your future, regardless of your past you build day by day, in the daily battle, focusing on the process and never just at the end of the road. The joy of seeing the passage of days is knowing that you are on the right path, no matter where the end is.
At no time have I outsourced the destiny of my life to statistics, studies, my past, or the past of my ancestors. Who reads my blog from the beginning knows part of my story and also knows of many people that I was seeing being left aside by the way.
You are the master of your destiny. Your future depends solely on you. The more you get victimized or blame your fate on others, the more you’ll be left behind. Fight for your future.