One thing that always bothered me was to realize that some people gave up on going on in life, they gave up progressing, fighting and facing reality. I never had any choices, I always had to survive with very little. In poor families in the early 1990’s, there was not even a yogurt or a chocolate at home, new car was a very vague expression, boxed milk was almost a luxury, cheese a few times a month, transport only public and still with the Money counted, I remember going underneath the bus roulette until the end of eighth grade! But I was so small and so thin that the collectors thought I was younger than I was or felt sorry for my public school shirt. What I started to get was that in public school I went to high school, I HAD ONLY THE SECOND DEGREE, that is, if anyone saw you on the street with that uniform, you would know that you should be at least 14 years old and at least First year of high school, that is, I could not get under the roulette wheel of the bus in that uniform. And then I started paying for the student ticket. Fashionable things, video-games, gadgets, the CD itself, legal TVs, even minor trips to a side township were unthinkable.
When I was a kid, my brothers and I would get new clothes just for Christmas and the end of the year, after which the younger ones wore the clothes of their elders and barely got any new clothes. There was no such thing as getting clothes almost every month, on a birthday, going to the mall, going to lunch, or dining in a restaurant. I did not know that these things existed right, not even wanted them. The fun was a ball game in the street, running, burnt, play, marbles, dig gigantic holes to burn trash, fight the same, take care of the mutt himself, take a bath at 6 pm after All this to go buy the bread that would be dinner.
One of my only gifts from childhood was a Master System video game with sonic in memory (in SuperNintendo times already almost on PlayStation 1) and also well after a used and repainted bike in the color I chose, black. Apart from these two gifts, I had a mutt, which must have lasted about 5 years with me and dawned dead on the strand of my house already old. My house was on the corner and had a medium lot, which was always growing bush. My mother, when she did not have much to do, told me to “clear the land”, which included weeding and taking the bush to another place. From time to time it would take me a Saturday or a Sunday.
These are details of my life that I had never written for other people to read. It’s good that I spent almost 5 years writing and sending emails to myself, but those were just for me. But why write this? I just wanted to describe my childhood as normal, relatively happy, somewhat lacking in financial resources, but that everything went well within that world, which I never cursed or complained of at the time. I could be happy with what I had. My pride was to study and get a good grade in school.
But what was never between YOU and OTHERS?
The will, the claw, the desire, the overcoming, the growth, the search and the evolution.
Not between me and the other or between YOU player and others.
Want to know something? It was always between you and yourself. The thing is to settle there, you had or have to solve it yourself. That is a great truth. No use complaining, crying, kicking, blame others, blame your family, your city, your parents, your country. BLAME AND CLAIMING always easiest, is not it? Does it bring some relief? Get rid of the guilt of your situation? Can bring. But this is not a winning attitude. It is an attitude that will only take you down, stagnate your life, it is a losing attitude.
Life does not choose winners and losers. You become a loser according to your choices, your attitudes, your companies, your effort and likewise winning. And it is enough that a winner begins to take losing actions to become a loser after some time.
Just take a loser and incorporate winning attitudes that in some time it will win. At certain times in your life you have to make some very risky decisions that will require you maturity and serenity, is the choice of a technical course, a job, a college course, a dating, leaving the parents’ house, a change of City or state and so on, and one thing always pulls the other. A simple wrong choice back there ten years later can turn into a catastrophe.
At some point in my life, I could study, dedicate myself to sports, spend more time with my friends from the neighborhood on the street, on the sidewalks talking until almost midnight, going to the beach every weekend, getting neighborhood girlfriends Was poor and violent – as it is to this day) – or I could go my own way and change my life. I chose to study college entrance examination at 14 years of age.
And I was studying EVEN. In addition, I compulsively read books and more books of national and international literature, this helped me a lot in school and in the tests and contests I did after that. If you ask me what was the point I turned the key and changed my course in life, I would say I envisioned my future if there continue what you were doing or what I had to do to change. I did not even have a clear idea of where I would arrive or how I would do it, I just studied and waited for the time to pass, it was my only choice there.
It may sound stupid but no one needs to lose you to win. There are endless opportunities and possibilities out there, there is SPACE for everyone. Even in the periphery, even in Brazil, people are winning. Each one wins to its measure. There are people dying every day, there are people being robbed every day, there are a politician and businessman stealing every day, there is a homeless person, a rapist, a beggar, murderers, thieves. It has all this all the time. And always had, since the world is the world. Do not think you discovered the wheel.
We live a brutal war for survival anywhere in the world. If you focus on the negative aspect of society and get contaminated by it you will sink. Every day there are people contracting HIV, there are pregnant teenagers, they have alimony being charged, they are dead in traffic, they have everything bad! But there’s a good thing, too. And life is like this, between dead and wounded you must march ruthlessly, without remorse, no pain, no crying. Your only option is to move on. You can not cry the tragedy of everything around you, you already live your own tragedy and your own history.
There are people who think that winning is living on the beach and riding a Ferrari, otherwise, it did not win. Bullshit. He has a face that thinks winning is to buy a piece of land, build a house, take a job, get married, raise a couple of children and play ball twice a week.
Each person is a world and each head has a sentence about a concept. Your values and desires you build every day, and you can change them when and if you want. You can not say you can not win because you were born poor, or black, or gay, or whatever. Is your life a fuck? Can be. Are you without a father or a mother? Can be. Did your parents split up? Very common (mine split up I was about eight years old). Has the standard of living dropped? It happens to a lot of people.
Now you can not be paralyzed because of this, you and life have to move on. Do you know why? Because every day there are people winning. Every day has poor getting rich, every day has black or gay improving life, every day has orphans earning him, getting married, making a new family, every day has a new house and delivered and people going to live in.
Every day there’s someone celebrating a pass in a competition or a college entrance examination. Every day there is a good thing happening, with all kinds of people. It has thriving commerce, it has small businesses thriving, new ideas and people accumulating a little more equity.
Nowadays with this “Social Network” thing, everyone is fighting, talking badly about each other, hating each other for free, are you there in RJ and are you hating for free a guy who is there in Fortaleza? What is the point of this? Is the son of a poor person complaining about the life and lives of others who have a better life? Dude, what do you have to do with the life of the children of Eike Batista, with the children of Abílio Diniz. Whoever was born rich was born my friend, and that’s it. There’s nothing you can do.
This anger of others will not lead you to anything. Hating the Prince of England or the son of Zuckerberg will help you in what? I am extrapolating the example but the same applies to someone you know. A guy who has a better-off family is not to blame for that, and it could even be you. If I have a child one day will it have a MUCH better living condition than the one I had, starting with at least three meals a day, and it will already be hated by many because of it? This has no logic whatsoever. This is a loser thing. And you who will choose to be a loser of both COMPLAIN and live the lives of others.
No one is guilty of walking or luncheon. I’ve walked for 24 years in my life and I’ve never blamed anyone. I’ve lunched my lunch dozens of times in my life and never blamed anyone. You have to learn to live and overcome yourself within your reality and working on you, with what you have, where you are. If you do, live your life and leave others alone. I assure you that you will get much further in this way.
I know winners and losers personally. Losers Nagging ARE today! I have a childhood friend who has complained for 15 years and is there in the same place, EVERYONE has changed his life, except him.
CLAIM HAS BEEN A DISEASE!
And it’s a loser’s disease. When you catch CLAIM, STOP!
STOP CLAIMING LIFE.
STOP CLAIMING OTHERS.
STOP CLAIMING YOUR FAMILY, YOUR COUNTRY, YOUR CITY, YOUR NEIGHBORHOOD.
I GUARANTEE YOU, I GUARANTEE YOU, THAT PEOPLE ARE MUCH MORE FUCKED THAN YOU AND THAT WILL COME TOWARDS INFINITELY BEYOND YOU.
The more you complain, the more you stay behind. The world does not forgive. No one wins in life from so much complaining. People win in life with work, strength, study, sweat and tears. Nothing more. Things do not fall from the sky, NOBODY owes you nothing, NOBODY has an obligation to you except your parents and this if you are a child or a teenager. If you are already an adult NEITHER YOUR PARENTS have more obligation to you. You are on your own, you are alone, get used to it, face your life face to face.
You fail to pass a college entrance exam for YOUR FAULT.
You fail to pass a contest for YOUR FAULT.
You were in a legal job and you were fired for your fault.
You took a foot in the ass of who you loved for your fault.
You have stopped studying and graduating or specializing over your fault.
You do not know English for your fault.
You did not emigrate to Europe or USA for your fault.
You do not make any more money.
You are in debt to YOUR FAULT.
You spend a lot and have a lot of expense for your fault.
You went riding a motorcycle and lost your leg for your fault.
You are doing well, working, contributing, investing, improving life for your fault!
In this world here, NOTHING, NEVER, was between you and the others.
Your biggest enemy was always yourself. I want to see is to have the courage to ADMIT this.
And admitting that is the first step to improving.